Mutual only
Both, or neither
Messages open when you have both said yes.
A lot has changed since your last dating app.
Checked photos
Real people
Every photo is reviewed by a person before anyone sees it.
Nearby
Close to home
Filter by city, age and what you actually care about.
The best thing that ever happened to you probably started with “why not.”
More people worth meeting. Fewer people you have to put up with.
You say yes
They say yes
Only then can either of you say anything
Mutual matching.
No unsolicited anything
On most apps anyone can write to you. Here they cannot. Liking someone does nothing on its own — the conversation opens only when you have both said yes.
Every photo here
was looked at first
Photo review.
Reviewed, not filtered
Uploads do not appear the moment they are posted. A person checks each one, and nothing explicit gets through.
Five things you care about
beat “hey” every time
Interests.
Something to open with
Pick up to five from a curated list. They show on your profile and they are what other people search by.
Our approach to safety
Photo review, mutual-only messaging, blocking and reporting — all built in from the start rather than bolted on after something went wrong. Designed to keep you in control at every step.
Verification
Know who you're talking to
Email confirmation on every account, and a real person reviews each photo before it goes live. No bots, no stock faces.
Respect
Talk on your terms
Nobody can message you until you've liked them back, so your inbox only ever holds people you chose.
Control
Stay in control
Block or unmatch anyone, instantly and without a reason. They disappear from your feed, your search and your messages.
Support
Report anything
Reports go straight to a moderator. The person you report is never told who reported them.
Ok but… why Apoile?
What makes a dating app tolerable is not how many people are on it. It is who can reach you, and what they can send. Apoile gates messaging behind a mutual like and reviews every photo by hand. That is the whole product.
Make a profile, say what you are into, and see who is nearby. Like someone; if they like you back, you can talk. If they do not, nothing happens and neither of you finds out.
Free to join, 18 and over, across Canada and the United States.
